Depression is a common mental disorder. Roughly 300 millions people worldwide are suffering from depression. The number of depressed people is increasing annually. Some people misunderstood depression as just a feeling of sadness. The difference is, people feeling sad for a particular reason, whether it’s caused by loss, disappointment, problems, or any other difficult situations. Sadness is a normal human reaction to these circumstances.
Whereas depression is a mental illness that affects one’s overall mood without any specific cause. It is a feeling of sadness which makes the person who suffers from it unable to function properly at work, at school, or in the family, and it could last for a long period of time. It is also known as clinical depression, major depressive disorder, or major depression.
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A person who suffers from depression may feel the feeling of worthlessness and hopelessness. Basically, losing interests in things that a person used to passionate about. Some may also experience depression as anger or irritability. Some may also experience difficulty to sleep and can be sleepless for days. In the worst case scenario, depression can cause suicidal thoughts, which may lead someone to suicide. Based on WHO data, roughly 800.000 people die due to suicide every year and it is the second cause of death in 15-29-year-olds.
Things Depressed People Are Tired Of Hearing
As someone who suffers from Bipolar Disorder Type II, I’ve had countless amount of depressive episodes throughout my life. When this happened, I could barely walk out of my bed. But I’ve always tried to remember and do what my therapist asked me to do: go out and socialize.
But this didn’t always work the way I wanted.
Sometimes I could function well as a friend or as a person in general. But sometimes it was just like moving ‘the depressed me’ to another place. When the latter happened, people could say things that could make the condition worse. Here are 10 things depressed people are tired of hearing.
1. “Just take it easy”
Thanks for the advice! I wish I know how to do it.
This advice might work for you or for any normal person. But researchers said that the chemicals in depressed brains are completely different from normal brains. Moreover, every people are psychologically different. People who say this to depressed people don’t know what it feels like to live with depression.
2. “It’s all just in your head”
This sentence sounds so ignorant, unsympathetic, and rude. Not only is it wrong, but also inaccurate and dangerous. It implies the person who is suffering from depression should have control over their illness. While in fact, they don’t. They can’t control their illnesses. Saying this is just the same as saying, “it’s just cancer” to someone who suffers from it.
3. “Other people have it worse than you”
I get it. I understand people get sad, and I understand life could be so unfair sometimes. But, just because someone else is unhappy doesn’t make me feel any better. By saying this, you try to dismiss the pain and decided not to talk about it. You’re saying it like the pain doesn’t exist while in fact, it could kill the person at any time.
4. “You should get out more”
Do you know why I rarely go out when I feel depressed? The only reason is that I don’t want to ruin your good time with my negative energy that comes along with the depression. Unfortunately, I have no control about it. And if I try to go out for an hour, there’s a big chance that I may feel much depressed for the rest of the day.
5. “Just have some fun as we do”
What is fun? During the depressive phase, this word seems to disappear from my dictionary. No matter how I hard I try, no matter how many comedy shows I watch, no matter how funny the jokes which my friend make, I can’t find any fun. It’s just gone and I don’t know where to find it.
6. “You’re just being dramatic”
As far as I know from YouTube or TV Shows, people who get involved in drama talks and argues about a lot of things to justify themselves. And do you know how many words that comes out from the mouth of a depressed person? Almost none. Even if they speak, they may just try to seek out for a help. I can’t see the definition of drama in this case.
7. “But you have no reason to feel depressed”
As I said in the beginning of this post, people feel depressed without knowing why they feel depressed. It just comes and takes every single bit of happiness from you. Everything happens for a reason, but depression comes without you even know why. And this is the worst part of feeling depressed.
8. “Things will get better”
I agree with this. I believe that time heals everything. The problem is, when I feel depressed I can’t think anything about the future. The only thing I can think is how to survive the day, wake up tomorrow, and not doing something that might harm my life in between. It’s just like a survival where you’re not sure whether you’ll be alive for another day.
Oh dang, I think I just being dramatic…
9. “You used to be a positive person”
I’ve heard someone said this to me once and it broke my heart deeply. There’s nothing wrong with this sentence. I was just being emotional because I remember those days when I felt so positive and hopeful. But it was the dark that makes me appreciate the light, and people who have never been in the dark may never be able to appreciate the light as much as people who have been there.
10. “You are just doing this for attention”
This is the most irrational thing that I’ve ever heard. Why would someone ‘decide’ to be depressed just to get others’ attention? Why would depressed people lock themselves up in their bedroom and try not to talk about it to others if all they wanted is just an attention? Seeking for a help and seeking for an attention are two different things.
Depressed people may try to look for a help because they can’t bear the overwhelming feeling inside. And when they do this, often time other people think the person is just looking for attention. This is one of the reasons why I often lock myself up when I feel depressed; just another misery.
Depression can replace happiness and joy with sorrow and hopelessness towards someone who suffers from it. The battle inside their mind is already exhausting and these words which I mentioned above could make it worse. By saying the right thing, you may help that person to feel better.
Dime is the founder of The Braindo. An Indonesian and a passionate INFP. He was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder Type II and decided to create a better life out of it. His biggest dream is to help as many people as possible.