According to the Urban Dictionary, when giving someone the benefit of the doubt, you are believing what they say and taking their word because you, yourself, have some doubt about what happened.
There is no such thing as a perfect relationship. There will always come a time when things change. Relationship problems like fights and conflicts take place or doubts start to be a trouble. These problems can cause a couple to end up parting ways.
The time for you to start anew and bring a fresher perspective to your relationship is now. It’s the time to learn how to have the benefit of the doubt mentality for your soulmate. In this article, you will learn everything you need to know to make sure that your relationship will turn out for the best. And the main goal is, to make it become better and more wonderful for the next months and years.
How to have the benefit of the doubt mentality in a relationship
No relationship will thrive and become successful if one is always doubtful of the other’s words, feelings, and actions. Having the so-called benefit of the doubt mentality can help in changing the flow of your relationship to the best direction.
Almost every person in this world has unintentionally or intentionally hurt someone they love. Have you ever done some stupid, dumb or hurtful things which affected your partner? I bet you have because research showed that a lot of people will do anything hurtful, at least once, to their partner in all long-term relationships.
Every relationship is bound to experience their own share of conflicts. Whether it is confusion, misunderstandings, doubts, or disagreements. If you have have been in a relationship with someone for a quite long time, eventually, some of these relationship problems will take place and will result in tension. These problems are highly normal in a relationship.
Your problem may make you feel frustrated, angry, disappointed, hurt, or upset. But you need to realize that partner is also a human, just like you. They will make mistakes eventually. There is actually no way to get around this.
As a result, you will probably start to doubt in your partner and in your relationship in general. Once such situations happen, will you respond with anger or will you give your partner the benefit of the doubt?
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Give your partner the benefit of the doubt
To give someone the benefit of the doubt is to default to the belief that their intentions are honest, and not assume malice when there is uncertainty or doubt surrounding the circumstances.
Giving your partner the benefit of the doubt means you’re willing to believe what your partner said and did even if you’re lacking information which may help you decide whether you can trust your partner or not. Instead of giving them a negative judgment, you choose to make assumption positively and respond in a favorable way.
It can’t be denied that love can give the benefit of the doubt. Love will not let you fill your mind with negative assumptions toward your partner. Otherwise, it will try to seek a way out of the conflict between you and your partner which was caused by doubts.
The Bible describes love as something that “bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things.”
Some people may see love as something naive, but, it is actually giving the benefit of the doubt. It chooses to see the best instead of prejudiced people. You give your partner the benefit of the doubt because you choose to believe your partner and you love your partner.
With that being said, here are some tips on how to give your partner the benefit of the doubt:
Show your partner an unconditional love
Knowing how to love someone is the key here. You simply cannot expect one person to completely accept you for who you are and then expect perfection from them. This love is not unconditional. Conditional loving is based in selfishness, something that will not let you give a person the benefit of the doubt.
I’ve written an article about the unhealthy side of possessiveness in a relationship. If you are possessive toward your partner, you are giving your partner a lot of doubts instead of the benefit of the doubt. To love someone is to trust someone completely. Doubts will only kill the relationship itself.
Endless stream of patience
Patience is highly needed when looking for the truth and trying to resolve a conflict. Jumping to conclusions is not part of giving a benefit of the doubt.
You may feel anxious, curious, or maybe even furious about your partner when they made a mistake or did something that upset you. But that’s the point. Give them a chance to explain from their perspective.
It is important to try putting yourself in the shoes of the other person. For all you know, they are probably afraid of being themselves to due rejection, abandonment or any other issues. Just assume that your partner has tried to be truthful and grow with you before working with them towards it.
Forgive and forget
The last but definitely not the last thing that you need is to learn to forgive and forget. Never let yourself dwell in bitterness. When you finally let your initial anger go, let it stay in the past and do not let it cloud your mind over again.
Love will always choose to believe the best about people. It won’t let negative assumptions to fill the uncertainty. Even though our fears are proven to be true, love will make every effort possible to find a way out and move on. As much as possible, love focuses on the positive.
Do you find this article helpful? Have you already given to give your partner the benefits of the doubt? Let me know in the comment! I would love to know what you think about it.
Rooting on you!