Today we’re gonna talk about the benefits of failure. Some people might be freaking out when they read the word of failure. Simply because they don’t want to fail at something, and failure is heartbreaking, so they avoid failure at all cost. But no matter how hard you try to avoid it, you may have to face failure at some point in your life.
It happened in mine so many times before, and even though I tried, I couldn’t avoid it. Those failures were inevitable.
It is heartbreaking to know that you’ve been working hard for quite some time and in the end, you cannot meet your desired objectives. Failure draws with it some negative attitudes such as self-criticism and self-worthlessness. When you fail at something, it could be very difficult to see the good within you. And this could become another problem for your self-development.
What if I say that you actually need a failure for your greater good? What if you can reap all the benefits of failure?
This may sound like a joke but bear with me. I believe most people who have overcome their setbacks can relate every point in this post. Here’s why you actually need failure for your greater good:
Benefits #1: Failure forges your psychology
You might have planned your actions and decisions so carefully. You might have the best strategy that you thought was the best you could possibly craft. Or you might have taken the most conservative approach possible. Yet, you still failed at it.
And then you wondered about what did you do wrong.
I have heard gazillion times about people who have finally achieved their successes. Many of them said one similar thing and I agree with it: Success is 20% technical and 80% psychological.
In the journey to success, it requires a lot of problem-solving and decision making. Some conditions may result in your advantage, and many may be ended up with disadvantages. This is where the psychology takes part. For some people, being on the “losing” side can be so stressful and pressurizing. One wrong decision could take you to your failure.
The harder you fail, the better you are forged, psychologically.
Success won’t come overnight. I’m sure you’ve heard this sentence a lot of time before. But that’s the truth. And there’s no guarantee you’ll achieve success after you overcome one failure. But I can guarantee, the more you learn from your failure, the better your performance will be. The point is, managing your emotion before you make any big decision plays the big part in your journey to your success.
Benefits #2: Failure strengthens your character value
Do you know the difference between a winner and a loser? A loser gives up after they face a failure, and a winner learns from their failure. I know this sounds so cliché, but it’s true.
Some people end their journey when they face a setback. This kind of people are those who may never see success for the rest of their life, simply because giving up can become a habit. Even if they try to do other things, there’s a high probability that they might give up when they see another difficulty.
Winners never quit. Quitters never win.
People who achieved their goals are resilient. They don’t dwell on setbacks or failures. Yet, they move on as quick as possible. They always see good in bad situations. And this is exactly why failure is actually good for you. To see what you are made of, what you are capable of. At the end of the day, it’s much better to die to try instead of giving up.
Benefits #3: Failure helps you to overcome your fear
Failure eliminates the fear of failing. You can’t fear failure if you’re already failing, right? I know this sounds bad, but let’s see the bright side. You’ve overcome your fear! Congratulations!
As one of the most powerful inner force, fear affects your decisions, actions, and outcome. Fear of failure is that kind of intense worry and the negative thinking when you imagine what horrible things that could happen if you fail to achieve your desired goals.
When you fail at something, you’ll realize that failure isn’t that horrible. Of course, your life situation would be upside down, but at least you still can breathe the precious oxygen even though you wonder all time about what do you have to do next.
The point is, once you fail at something, you will try to find another way, at least, to keep your dream and your desired goals alive. There are a million ways to achieve your goals, and you will always have another shot at it. Once you start over, the fear of failure that you once had will seem to fade away bit by bit.
Benefits #4: Failure keeps you humble
One thing that I learn the most about my past failures is, I am not that invincible. To be honest, my past easy successes made high-headed. I thought it would be easy to achieve everything in this life. Then I became that bad person. I became that person who brags about every little achievements that I fulfilled.
Humility is one of the most important virtue to keep us down to Earth, and my past failures helped me becoming a little bit humbler than I used to be. And the most important thing is, I say this again: I realize I am not that invincible.
Benefits #5: Failure brings you closer to success
Oh no, another cliché quote!
Let me tell you a little bit about my story. I began my job as a financial trader in 2016. It was fun at first, but as the time went by I realized how crazy the financial market is. I lost all of my money in the first month because I thought I was prepared, but in fact, I wasn’t.
That was the moment when I realize I wasn’t that “invincible”.
But I kept on learning from my mistakes and the wrong decisions that I made. As I write this post in 2018, I find out that my performance is getting better and better. I start to make a living through this job that I thought was an impossible job. I haven’t achieved my biggest goal yet, but I have achieved the little one such as paying the bills and buy something for my nieces with the money that I earned from the financial market. And I’m so optimistic that I will perform much better in a year or two.
Progress is growth, and failure is a part of progress.
You’re only given what you can handle
Every failures and setback draw with them lessons which we can learn from. The lessons which never be taught at school and can only be learned through experience. If you’re facing a setback as you read this post, believe me, you are stronger than your problems. Prove the world what you are made of and what you are capable of.
And if you would, share with us about your experience with this beautiful mess called failure.
To end this post, I’d like to share a video from Harvard Commencement Speech by J.K. Rowling. This video helped me through my very first set back and I can’t stop sharing this ever since.
Dime is the founder of The Braindo. An Indonesian and a passionate INFP. He was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder Type II and decided to create a better life out of it. His biggest dream is to help as many people as possible.